Should men pay for everything on a date?
by andrew on May.23, 2004, under Dating
I was talking to a friend online, who basically told me she expected the man to pay for all the dates. Her reasoning? That was apparently the role of a man - to pay for dinner etc., be “the man” outside, and that was just how she was raised. In return, she’d buy fine wines etc. and entertain at home …
I can’t quite begin to quite comprehend this state of affairs - on the very few dates I’ve had, I’ve paid for one, she’s paid for another date etc. — not quite equal but equal enough. Then again, I patently haven’t had many dates…
What do you think?
2 comments for this entry:
May 23rd, 2004 on 1:52 pm
I think it’s down to the couple. I’ve been out with a few people over the years and the “arrangements” have varied greatly. Generally, though, it seems that women in my experience pay for what they can.
I’ve been with one lass who was almost offended if I insisted in paying for everything, so we reached the “going dutch” or “alternating payment” methods. Other times I’ve been out with people who are studying or unemployed when I’m working so I don’t mind paying - they’d make up for it as and when they could afford.
But on the whole, I’ve found it quite “tit for tat”.
November 5th, 2004 on 5:25 pm
I always expect the guy to pay on the first date. In fact - I offer to leave the tip, as a test. If he allows me to - That’s the first and last date. I just feel that it’s important to me that I find a true gentleman. Paying for the woman, opening doors, standing when the woman returns to the table, bringing flowers, compliments - are all signs of being a gentleman. If the date blossoms into a relationship - I pay at least 40% of the time. Afterall he’s not made of money!